Mother—A position every woman loves to hold, be in it, and do the justice for the term. From the moment her child is born and till the last breathe on her deathbed, all that she does is sacrifice. She sacrificed her virginity. She was ready to accept the changes in her body. Her altered hormones though. She tolerated the soreness to breastfeed you. She heard hundreds and thousands of advices to raise you well. She always checked on every meal before giving you. She always made sure your cot is neat and clean, your dresses are ready for the next day, and shoes are well polished. She made no excuses to make your favourite sandwiches for your lunch box while in haste cooking dal and bhindi for the family. She always saved the best pieces of chicken for you and made sure you plate is full everytime. She was falling apart whenever you were sick, but never failed to boost you up. She always believed in you, your work, in your success, and most importantly when you failed. She kept you motivating. She kept you growing. As we grew up, we hurt her the most with or without knowledge but she is never complaining and never sharing her pain with anyone. Because no matter what, we know she will not hate us. We took her for granted, made fun of her, and didn’t care to notice her hardships. Every day as long as she is alive, cherish her presence, be with her, talk to her, make her feel like she is the best human in the Universe. If you’re reading this and are away from her, ring her up and say “Thank you for everything”. Because she loved you with your mistakes and even at her hardest times.
Happy Mother’s Day, to all women here, and especially to the ones who are soon planning to be one. Lots of love and peace to you.
How is this quarantine going for everyone? Are we happy? Or clubed with thoughts and emotions? Everyone is going through the same tough situation though. And some are even worse. There are a lot of people outside, who go for daily wages work, without food now. And people who are home with all essentials are not happy with anything around. Few desparately want to go out, meet friends and families, and want to go to job. I know this is so bad for each of us here. Many wedding chapters have been postponed, whereas few took place within a little space. The major thing that’s happening is misunderstandings and random arguments between spouses. I have been hearing a lot recently, and even today. What not! Even me and my husband went through the same situation a couple of days back. To my thoughts, it is not a big thing to think about it and fight back with your spouse. All of us are stuck in a position where we’re occupied with a lot of thoughts that are actually not necessary. We just face those four walls, look at each other the whole day, and try to go on with time till end of the day. This has more chances of creating madness, anger, and boredom, keeping our mind ideal. It is true they say, “An ideal mind is a devil’s workshop”. We keep giving more volume of thoughts to even the simplest things which is causing all the misunderstanding and unnecessary spat with partner or anybody. This is a time to be together, time to understand each other, being patient with one another, love endlessly. But we all fail at some point. Spend more time face-to-face. Because, this is one agreement myself and my husband are working on. And you know what? It helps! Truly, yes. We keep our phones away, and are practicing this habit of talking to each other on how the day went for both of us; his office work, my day time, some general news. Speaking and sharing helps too much beyond what we expect. Parents, who have children of young age, can spend time with kids and teach them many learnings. Give them little activities, which means not just that are related to academics. It can also be simple household works, helping in the kitchen, a short session in the terrace to get fresh breeze, and teach them physical exercises. Show them there is a lot to perform within this little space. We have so much to do, learn, and keep learning more. Especially housewives, it is not just your kitchen even now. Take care of your body and do something for yourself to build you better. Don’t forget yourselves while taking care of others. Get enough rest, sleep and relax, and stay hydrated. Cleanse your mind and detox your body. Because, it is important, and you matter the most. Let’s all try to be stress-free instead of worrying when this will end. Hard times don’t last. Let’s hope for it. We’re coming out of this together.
I got injured back-to-back a few days ago. It was a very painful segment for me, when you have plans lined up and be excited about. Everything had to be cancelled because of my carelessness toward myself. X-rays, scans, medicines! Too painful than one can imagine. While I was recovering from one, another one began. Apart from all these, this injury and pain taught me few things. Take care of oneself. It is important. Our body is our biggest prestigious treasure. Never take it for granted. Let me tell you. If you experience anything different in your body or internal organs, go to the hospital. Just have a little consultation with your doctor. That’s a bigger help you do to your health at Stage 1. It never should be, “After all a stomach disorder, a knee pain, constant inconvenience”. Take if serious. Your body tells you something isn’t right. Healthcare is a priority. Getting well from illness is a blessing. I’m already thankful to it! Moreover, the best thing that happened to me is my families. Phone calls, people coming over to see me, constant messages. Hardest times always prove who all really cares and have time for us. I’m feeling intensely blessed to have them all with me. True hearts care. Best families from both sides!
There are so many posts that I’ve been recently reading about Corona Virus. And I see many people sharing more posts on it. Look, it is severe and devastating. Agreed. But the more you look or read such posts, the more fear it will cause within you. Not just you but aslo within others. Updates are fine, but going so deep into it is for no good. I heard few people saying they avoid to see/hear news on Covid-19. When you share updates about it, it is causing a greater inconvenience as it tries to alter someone’s confidence with more fear. Instead of spreading negativity, let us calm down for a while, stay home, hope for the best, and pray. Or otherwise belive that the world is getting better. I don’t believe much in God or prayers, but the least I’m doing is to believe for something good to happen around the world. The Universe has a deeper connection with each of us and our thoughts. When you continuously fear about something bad is going to happen, it will. Living in this situation right now, it is high time we must feel grateful for being safe at home. Thank the place you live in, thank the food that you eat, thank the people around you for being with you. Because, being isolated will be more equal to death. Please avoid having thoughts like “What if it increases? What if it spreads so fast?” or any kinds of What-ifs. Expand your mind to develop positivity. Surely and confidentially say that we’re coming out of this, we will succeed through it. One negative thought blindfolds thousands of positive mindsets around you. It’s time for us to strongly believe that we, together, are going to be happy again.
The knowledge about having basic life skills among students is hardly seen. Life skills are things that can be anything that’s helpful for your kids to grow better in every aspect of circumstances. Some of them include facing and overcoming problems, learning any process, thinking out of the box, ignoring negative thoughts and people, accepting ups and downs, and most importantly self-love.
Good Behaviour In this generation of educational system, it has become so rare to see children getting to know about basic morals and values of discipline and good manners—the very basic qualities that will build your child’s behaviour. This will help them serve their life better.
Facing Criticism One of the major issues children are facing is criticism. How to face it and get through? Criticism is everywhere. Let your kids know that critics exist in every atmosphere. From birth to death. Tell them the best way to avoid such situations is by not minding and not lending ears to those low-quality conversations. Too much criticism affects one’s self-esteem. One of the right things we teach our kids is habit of giving appreciation to everyone and everything. It is important for them to learn because it becomes a quality of their character by not judging anyone with looks, status, physique, or the atmosphere they live in. Everyone is equal here. Also, most importantly, it is strictly not necessary for them to sit anywhere where people have filthy, powerless, and degrading conversation. Because, you don’t raise your child to gossip anything not needed or to speak ill about anything. You raise them to be a good human, first of all.
Developing Self-Love and Self-Esteem Children have to love themselves, at first place, before they could genuinely love others. As parents, give them the opportunity to choose. When they come to you for help or need, just give them ideas and guide them. Let them proceed and progress in it. Be it getting their uniforms and shoes in the morning, till arranging their bed while going to sleep. Teach them to do their own work; say, organizing their clothes, washing their plates, arranging their wardrobe, and keeping their place clean. Once they practice this habit, it becomes a necessary everyday-routine. This will create enough confidence in them by getting their things done on their own without being dependent. Of all, give them your attention. It means the world to them. Appreciate even when they do a simple good thing. Spend time with them. They don’t ask you for me when they realize parents are the best. That gives them immense happiness, and they start loving and believing you more than anyone else. When you face a problem, don’t panic or get your face weird in front of them. Instead, be normal and smile and say it is solvable. That will help them know that no problem is huge and can be resolved. You set an example there, as in, more like accepting mistakes, flaws, consequences, and still being normal and loving your life, which creates more love for themselves and the life they live.
Facing Challenges Teach your children to focus on their challenges and outputs. Tell them challenges are tests and trails that will mould them to become better. There will be positive and negative. There will be success and failure. Say that it is completely okay to lose a game, fail a tournament, to be backward in a race. Give them the chances to explore the outside atmosphere so that they can see out-of-the-box opportunities. Never keep your child in comfort zone. Let them come out of it. It improves their confidence, as they see things differently and aspire more. Once they start doing it, assure them if they keep trying, progress and success will be more visible.
Self-Control As we live in today’s reality, it is more important to teach your kids about self-control over things they don’t need or not right. Being children, they find it attractive when they see something from other kids or what they do. If it is truly necessary, buy them. If not, it must be a strict NO. This practice will have a huge impact in their future. They will think twice before doing anything. That helps them have patience in life which will actually help them realize not everything that they want is important and not everything they don’t get is a loss. Also, it helps them manage their anger or frustration without any strong emotion.
Many of the educational institutions don’t concentrate on building up each kid with these lessons. They might help them with career but definitely not with basic life skills that are majorly needed. As parents, it is our duty to teach them all these to bring out positive development, strong goals, and superior challenges in children. I, strongly and personally, believe there is no better teacher or any institution that teaches your kid than their own parents. Because, what you, as parents, cultivate in them is what your child becomes.
This was a personal experience that I would like to share with whoever reading this.
Well, it was last year when my alliance was fixed, and I was engaged right after that. I had like 4 solid months for marriage. An important interval where every bride would be of mixed emotions. Just like that, I was too. Just after a couple of weeks after I got married, I had so many pimples all over my face. A completely clueless situation where you just don’t understand why it is happening so. Maybe because of a few stress or the feeling of fear to new life, coz they say stress is the major reason behind. I was totally depressed with that. I didn’t know what to do or how to face people, because that is the time so many visit you, the “new bride”.
The questions, laughter, hate, and all those I underwent are something so painful. People usually care less about asking “Hey how is your new life?”. Instead, they love asking, “What is wrong with your face? You never had this before?”. They ask you all the “Why & How” factors, when you’re already dying over it. I would also agree that I had good sweet people on my side who never questioned about it directly to me nor did they comment on it. Each and every day after marriage were the days where I used to sit in the room and cry to my husband. I couldn’t help saving or controlling myself from that depression as a very few people around kept adding stress with hell lot of questions and sarcasm. This doesn’t may sound too problematic to a few reading this. But being a girl, carrying so much inside, couldn’t tell anyone about it, couldn’t guess what’s happening around, I felt lost in the period where I was supposed to be happy. Those tears, regrets, guilt lead me to take a decision on what could be done to solve that little issue. I started doing all the possible ways to clear it. Had plenty of water, detoxing my body in natural ways, healthier foods, vegetables. Of all, the best thing I did was, I stopped stressing myself over the questions and hurtful words from anyone. I stayed calm, positive. No matter what happens I decided not to react. Doing that so longer fetched me the most unexpected results. I cleansed not just my face and body, but also my soul, thoughts, and mind.
We, humans, usually when facing something become frustrated and angry over it. I was the same before. Instead, using the same as a weapon to build me became more easier that pleasing anyone or minding them. It is completely useless to cry over things that worry us. Take it as a challenge and become mentally and physically stronger. Today, I’m thanking people who pulled me down.
Stay positive. Stay blessed.
The last day in calendar. I would like to thank all those people who were on my side at the time of difficulties, those who helped me to get through it, those who really lended me their ears when I shared my lame thoughts, those who surprised me with little things, those who showed so much love on me which at times made me think if I even deserve it, those who made me smile and laugh. Special thanks to all you people here in my blog and followers who spent your precious time reading my blog and enjoyed. I feel so full. Thank you so much guys for making this year so great. Let the Universe kiss you with its good will.
Thank you 2019, for all the lessons and blessings to mastering and moulding me.
Great Cheers to 2020 ! Love & Peace to all.
Being alone with nobody around or have nothing to do for a longer time is a serious thing to be treated. Suffering from mental agony of loneliness is much equal to that of extreme physical pain one can go through. People like them become depressed very easily even at the simplest failures. They long for connection with people but still refuse to do that because they’re used to the feeling of isolated and being alone. The most worse cases happen when married couples become divorcees and a sudden demise of loved ones. They undergo a serious phase of irritation; lack of concentration, losing hope in life, afraid to fall in love again, or even doubt their existence anymore. The lame laziness to wake up and feel the other side of the bed is empty, sitting in an empty balcony with two cups of tea but one person, going to workplace and find nothing interesting, cooking the same set of meal everyday and washing the same old clothes, sitting in a room and looking at those walls and getting lost with confused thoughts. There are a lot of things to be done, to cherish, to establish, and to enjoy. It all depends on how to manage and tackle to keep things in order to keep abreast with the perfect illustration of our dreams. The pain of our final breathe lasts just for a minute, but every second of loneliness kills.
Speaking about the reality of today’s world, most of us discuss so much about women, their strength, how important they’re to the society, and about feminism. We rarely talk about men and their importance. Just as how a woman play major roles to bring up her family, men take equal and hardest pressure to lift every member in it. If women are strong in one way, men are stronger in many ways.
On an estimation of woman’s achievements, a theme about men should also be contemplated equally.
So, how back-breaking is it to breathe as a man?
It is not just a woman who takes care of the hardships at home, but a man who is being an initiative for all the resources.
If a woman is meant to build her home, a man is building his family. He is running to pay the bills and expenses.
He behaves as an armour to protect his people.
His unceasing efforts are neither seen nor exhibited.
He struggles at workplace. He strives hard for family’s welfare.
He runs the entire family; at the same time, he is being complained about the quality of rice. He enjoys the struggles to satisfy us.
He helps accomplish his son’s future, inspite of heavy burdens inside.
He is too concerned about his daughter’s well-being, just because the world is morally corrupted.
He carries a series of sensations to give a good life to his wife after 60s.
Still, he is judged on things that he couldn’t do.
Don’t hurt HIM. Be sure that you appreciate him for the million little things he does.
Always compliment them, be it a father, a brother, or a husband.
They care so much but they don’t understand the meaning of expressing it.
He leaves home everyday with a word “Take Care”.
He waves hand while leaving, but turns back once again to check if you locked home and got back inside.
He earns less, but brings home lots.
He says NO first, but later agrees with whatever you say.
He seems rude, but loves you secretly.
He restricts, but for the sake of goodness in future.
He never appreciates, but is always glad about your good work.
I have two special men in my life.
Firstly, my Dad. I’ve seen every little and tons of struggle my dad faced to give his two daughters and his wife the best life. He is a great inspiration and the biggest happiness to me.
Second, my Husband. Right now I see him thinking so much about me, my good and bad days, his career, our future. From being an irresponsible bachelor to suddenly being a perfect husband who started carrying a lot of responsibilities.
How beautiful these Men are!
He ain’t going to tell you “I love you” all the time. He might not be available to you when you need him. He won’t appreciate every meal that you do. He might miss an important plan with you. Understand. Understand his life, his pressure, and what he’s going through. Love him thoroughly with all your heart. Your actions or words shouldn’t add up to the burdens he’s already carrying. Let him know that he can come to you, look up to you, speak to you no matter how harder life gets. You’re his only companion and hope.
Thank the special men in your life every single day. They don’t need a reason to be greeted for. They don’t have a replacement. Amongst other men who rape and disrespect women, there are other gentle-hearted men out there who see a mother’s love in wife’s warmth, treat her well, respect her choices, listen to her broken stories, lift her up when she falls, hug her with silent prayers, and admire the purest beauty of womanhood right since his daughter is born.
Kudos to those lovely kinds! More love and peace to you.
Happy Men’s Day.
When you see their tears through text, sense how much pain they bear, know the value of that heart, and you feel everything inside your nerves and want to give the whole lot support of yourself just to see them smile and feel comfortable in your presence, know that you’ve literally fallen for them.
Saying sorry is as important as saying I love you. It saves a relationship before it could fall apart. Don’t mind being sorry, irrespective of whose fault it is. It helps. It raises your standard. It reflects your kind heart.
Love in not about changing the relationship status on social media. It’s your availability for the other in moments of happiness and distress, a pleasant words of hope that can heal your mind, a warm support by being together, and a sudden meet-up to bring cheers on each other’s face. Just two people, a shared life.
Moving on is the toughest segment one can go through in life. They talk to you, create memories with you, give you surprises, take efforts to be with you. But nothing remains the same throughout. Everything changes. Everyone changes. It is completely sick to expect people to remain the same with you. They find new people, different relationship, fresh career, or their dream environment. The atmosphere they engage into changes them completely. Also, you might have given them so much importance in life. You might have made them really really special. They might have cherished all that you have done to them. But it is not the same always. They never asked you to do all these but you did. Why? Because you love them? Because you want them to stay in your life forever? So that they won’t move aside from you? If these are the factors, it’s time to feel sorry for yourself. Trust me, your efforts, time, love, care, or whatever you do for others come with a expiry date in one’s life. Once it is there, it’s no more of your time with them anymore. Someone else overtakes. They find a deep connection with that new person. Giving lectures, trying to create a bond again, going behind, doing all the possible things to make them stay—no; nothing would really work. If one of you decide it is over, it means it is. Moving on is difficult. Letting go of something that kept you alive is tremendously hurtful. But think. Haven’t you done your best to always keep them at first place? Haven’t you showered enough love to always gel with them? Haven’t you asked them where all their efforts have gone? Haven’t you earlier told them how it feels to be ignored? Haven’t you tried explaining that loneliness kills? Haven’t you told that lack of appreciation creates inferiority? Haven’t you cried your feelings to them? You did everything. Literally everything. Enough being what you are not. Be what you really are. You’re so good to yourself. Treat your body better. Take care of your heart well. May your mind be relieved from all distressing thoughts. Few things that happen in life break your soul, tear you apart, put you lifeless. Move in front. Get back from unrealistic surrounding what you thought was real. It is possible. Push yourself to do that. One day, these will not even matter. Bless them and let it go. From stronger to being strongest.
Peace and Love to all.
Instead of giving people the priority more than they deserve, when you understand where to keep them in your life, you attain peace, self-respect, and fulfilment.
By this, don’t be afraid of whom you’ll lose. It’s absolutely fine to stop satisfying the undeserving.
“No. Love isn’t. The person you chose is. Love means joy, a contentment, a reflection that transforms you into better. True love doesn’t push you out of your originality. You don’t have to wear a mask to make someone stay.”
The language of love between us is holy and innocent,
as long as we shower this sublime benevolence.
I’m sure going to fall for you again and again,
since you filled the void in my life with immeasurable joy.
I’m blinded by your love, and we’re bonded with fondness, truly and deeply.
I just can’t resist telling you that you’re my everything;
Of all, my genuine goodness and contentment.
To you, I give the whole of myself, because you’re the best thing I ended up with;
a blessing I never had before.
This bond will be unstoppable and uncontrollable.
You’re the sunshine that gives me light,
and the gravity that holds me tight.
I’m your constant and you’re my permanent.
We both together are perfectly awesome.
My desires are very little, yet so strong;
Love me. Love me endlessly!
I’m incomplete without you.
Thank you for being the classic art of loyalty.
Your love proved that there’s a little piece of heaven on Earth.
My real zone of honest happiness,
I love you BEYOND THE END.
Friendship, the first relationship born in the outside world.
By shaking hands initially, they became our blood-like relations.
The local hangouts and junk foods gave the best memories.
A laugh together everytime rejuvenates.
Only relation that has no gender domination.
The deep ties, unspoken impressions, and plain emotions did not vanish.
The memories cherished are treasured till the grave.
In between, we all grew up.
The unforgotten birthday wishes are the only communication we feature, and that is how life transformed.
Happy Friendship Day all of you!
More Love and Peace to all good friends!
There is a city, deep inside my heart and in corner of my imagination. It’s a beautiful place with colourful street light, and pink roads. Our home is a little stone house, with cute wooden furnitures and ceramic culinary sets. Painted in the theme of black and white colours. We have curtains of solid silver and black metallic balls, which make happy sounds whenever we slide it across. There’s a little pond with colourful fishes and two beautiful crotons. It was a perfect evening to take a walk to the city’s beautiful market. Little kittens and puppies running around the street corners, with a layer of rain water covering the land, and the Love of my life beside me. A small hut and a old lady selling raw mangoes and amla, we sprinkle some paprika and salt on it, to give our taste buds a high spice. Other corner had a man grilling hot chicken tandoori. Meanwhile, our floral transparent umbrella dripping rain water on the sides, touching the waist and thighs. I look above and see the nature spilling it’s blessing on us. The road looks empty, just with us and few people taking their way to reach home, and two sparrows searching for a shelter. My hair clutch was sliding down, and his watch dial covered with droplets of rain water. With calmness around, no unnecessary volumes of anything, and his hand holding mine, we look at each other with undefined smile and love. There’s no secret in the city, neither in our hearts. We converse about all the things we see on the lane, and speak out all the words from heart. On reaching home, I take my way to the kitchen to prepare his favourite Elachi Ginger Tea. I pour it in a mud cup, reach him to the balcony, sit on the cushion sofa, and admire rain water dripping down through the roof. No hiding, no magic, no lies, but to hold hands, stay around, pull waist, talk about life, and smile together.